Even at the very moment we decide to look for a partner, we may stumble upon the first obstacle. When we are alone and increasingly lonely, we see happy couples around us who, in our eyes, have all their desires and needs fulfilled.
So, there must surely be someone out there who will fill the emptiness we feel inside, someone who is made just for us, our ideal half, with whom we will become happy and complete. Wrong, just a myth!
We are not halves, we are not a box that needs a lid. If we are not whole, if we feel some kind of lack within ourselves, no one can fill that emptiness for us.
It’s true that when we fall in love, we see everything in a very idealized way. In the person we choose, we see everything we want to see; everything is wonderful, driven by passion, and the flame of infatuation consumes everything that doesn’t fit with our eyes of illusion.
These are wonderful, priceless feelings. But this is that bright, high flame that quickly rises, illuminating everything around it, and then… it slowly starts to fade.
The light begins to lose its power, it no longer dazzles us, our vision becomes clearer, and we gradually descend from the clouds of illusion into reality.